A Piece About Sex...................

[Lee Sullivan]

A Piece About Sex.....

By E. Lee Sullivan



Is it time to let “sex” out of the closet? Something said to me, Lee, since you aren’t having any sex, perhaps you should write about it. (Hey gurlfriend that might be too much information.)



Anyway, tuning into NPR’s radio broadcast of News and Notes with Farai Chideya, (and by the way for those of you who weren’t aware, that program is being canceled next month) Farai was doing a piece on an Essence magazine cover article about sex. Well as you know sex sells and many other publications have a sex cover story.



In that conversation and many others including Oprah’s new years’ shows entitled “Live Your Best Life”, Friday’s show will be on sex. Dr. Oz has said along with Essense and others that having sex is healthy and at least three times a week is preferable.



Hmmmmm, well being raised as a Christian in a Baptist church I was taught from a very young child that sex was for marriage and sex outside of marriage was a “sin”. Definition of sin “1.a breaking of the law of God deliberately” “2.an immoral act; wrong doing” Thorndike



So if today’s message is that sex at least three times a week is healthy for us what if you aren’t married? And this is where the dilemma lies? Let’s talk sex.



A line by Samatha from “Sex and the City” said that soon people will be having sex with any body they want to.” In other words there won’t be words like gay, lesbian, straight or bi-sexual, even downlow. And the question is, Isn’t that where we are today? And why are so many young Black men gay and bi-sexual and so many women lesbians? Comedian Wanda Sykes has come out of the closet and is moving forward for gay rights. Dick Gregory alludes to “hormones that are being put into the meat.” Those on the moral spectrum say that homosexuality in the masses preludes the destruction of a society, literally.



Some like Wanda have come out of the closet but others fear “coming out”. (But we know who you are.) Well, why? Should it matter who one is having sex with? And if sex is deemed so healthy for us as it is relayed today, if you’re not married then should you get married to have sex, as it was the case in olden days? But today, getting married just to have sex is ludicrous. And isn’t that why so many say they have affairs because they ain’t getting any at home. Is sex a moral matter or a health matter? Don’t ask me, I live the life of a nun, ain’t had none, ain’t getting none. (Sounds personal to me, Lee)



Another issue about sex, Ms. Ali who caused so much controversy in her book “A Black Man’s Guide….” has said that many women know that their men are having sex with other men but don’t want to face up to it. Well how do they know? An Oprah show revealed one guest who thought her man was having an affair and followed him to only find out he was, with another man. Should I mention “Waiting to Exhale” author. It’s quite simple, it’s said you are what you eat, well, you look like what you do. If you are involved in homosexual experiences you look like you do. So why do so many portray that they are straight and it’s quite obvious to others they you are bi?



Whew…? Can’t we just be mature about this situation? Are we a nation of homophobics? Let’s not forget to mention the view that Hollywood and Wall Street are ruled by homosexuals.



Today’s viewpoint appears to be, to lead a healthier life you should be having sex. Sex with love (is better) or without it, sex with the same sex or heterosexual sex or hey, even sex with yourself. So in order to be healthy should we be having sex by any means necessary?



Did you know that Eartha Kitt was conceived by rape from a white man. So what’s the bottom line on sex? People are going to have sex, a human beings most arduous drive. Without it this world as we know it would probably end. But like most things in life sex comes with strings and responsibility and should come with maturity and honesty to keep down drama and hurt feelings. It should be “laid” on the table, discussed as an honest agenda, approached with caution, understood with wisdom, and in today’s climate practiced by adults with an adult mentality.



Hey my first “piece” of the new year! I hope.



E. Lee Sullivan is a freelance writer, poet and self published author living in Atlanta, Ga.

(c) els 2009